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Completion for 2019
05/12/2019

An oldie but a goodie.  I have been completing this for many, many years and have the final page pinned up above my desk to revisit daily throughout the whole year.  Enjoy ...

 

I am sending you a short little exercise for completing 2019 and starting 2020. I have borrowed liberally from other coaching colleagues (who borrowed from colleagues...) and I thank them for it.

"Completion" doesn't mean that things are finished, or that things are rosy. Rather, completion is about making things whole, or fully letting things be as they are, or as they are not. When something is incomplete, it drains energy from you, and hangs around like ghosts. When you complete with something, or someone, you take that energy back. You accept (a loss), or celebrate (a win), or you just simply decide to complete the incomplete. Oftentimes, a ritual helps, like burning the worksheet, or popping a champagne bottle. You get to be imaginative.
 
So, here are some things you can do on your own, or with a friend or partner or coach. It can be a wonderful time to share and be intimate.

COMPLETING THE OLD: 2019

Step One
Looking at all the areas of your life, reflect on 2019.

1. List all of your Wins, Gains, and Breakthroughs. And mark each one as either Complete or Incomplete.

Next, find a date in which you might want to complete an incomplete item. For example, you finished a marathon, but you haven't completed on the fundraising side. Set Feb 1 to complete that. I sometimes find that with a win or a success, that what completes the win is some kind of ritual to celebrate and acknowledge myself.

2. List all of your Losses, Disappointments, and Breakdowns. (And accept them.)

And again, mark each one to see if you are complete or incomplete, and set a date to complete them. (You might not know HOW to complete, never mind, just set a date.)

Step Two
Look at 6-8 lessons you have learned this past year that you want to carry into 2020. Remember, when thinking of what to include, that you will want to consciously use these lessons in the coming year.

Here are some examples:
I learned:
•  to let go of circumstances I cannot control
•  to listen to my own voice and intuition
•  to ask for help and support
•  to salsa dance and I want more of it next year.

In a coaching session, we could look at this list, refine it and clarify the lessons learned.

CREATING THE NEW -- 2020

Step One
Imagine ahead to December 2020
Write a list of your Wins, Gains, and Breakthroughs for 2020.  Be specific and write them as though they have already happened or they happen routinely.

(For example, "I have a lucrative and satisfying career.") Look at each area of your life and make the list as long as you like. In your coaching session, we could look at how to make this list happen.

Step Two
- Give the year to come a Name. If next year was a movie, what would it's title be? Some past names have been: Year of “Life is Delicious!” Year of “No Kidding “

This process is yours to make your own. Many clients have loved the focus it brings to the New Year and the opportunity to consciously create your life. Make 2020 your most potent, enJOYable year so far!

HANDY WORKSHEET: to print or to copy into your journal or wherever is most convenient.

COMPLETING THE OLD 2019

Wins, Gains and Breakthroughs for 2019

Complete? Need to be complete.
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Losses, Disappointments and Breakdowns for 2019

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5-7 Lessons to Take from 2019 into 2020

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CREATE THE NEW 2020

Wins, Gains and Breakthroughs for 2020
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My Name for The Year 2020 is ____________

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